I just won the lottery and don’t want to share my winnings with my husband

Taking to the popular Am I The A**hole forum, she explained that she’d rather spend the prize on solo travel.

However, her husband believes she should put the money into the couple’s joint savings.

Of course, people had thoughts about the nuances of the dilemma, including whether or not the husband was legally entitled to her winnings or not.

Taking to the thread, user @GasBiscuit-13 recounted their situation with the headline: “AITA for not sharing my lottery winnings with my husband?”

The woman began by explaining that she had recently won the lottery from a Scratchie and was “very excited”. She didn’t disclose how much she won but indicated that it was “semi-life-changing money” to the tune of “tens of thousands of dollars”.

Immediately, the woman knew that she wanted to use the money to go travelling on an overseas holiday.

Her husband, on the other hand, had other ideas and thought she was being unreasonable.

He insisted that she should add the money to the couple’s joint savings account so that they could continue saving for things like a house and a car.

But the woman says, “That doesn’t seem fair to me since I bought the ticket, scratched it, and cashed it in for the money myself.”

“We have a joint account but also separate accounts for spending,” she explained, so argued that her winnings were “her” money and she could do what she likes with it.

Her husband has become increasingly upset with her decision, but she’s stayed firm on her position. She now wants to know if she’s in the wrong or not.

“My husband isn’t owed half of the money just because we are married,” she insists.

Most of the commenters agreed that it’s a huge issue that she doesn’t want to share her winnings with her husband, but noted that an even bigger red flag was the fact she didn’t even want him to come travelling with her.

The top comment, with 15,000 likes, reads: “You’re the a**hole, and legally, he is entitled to half. Also, you are forgetting the ‘for better or for worse part’ of marriage. Why would you not celebrate together?”

“Yeah, the first thing that struck me was why are you married to this guy if you don’t want to share this with him or go travelling with him?” someone echoed.

Someone else broke it down like this:

“Let’s review: You don’t want to celebrate your winnings with your husband. You certainly don’t want to share the winnings with your husband. And you don’t want to travel with your husband. Why are you married?”

A different woman added, “I don’t know any healthy relationship that wouldn’t ‘treat’ their partner and I don’t know how you could go on a holiday of a lifetime without your partner.”

Someone else pointed out: “Your behaviour is so selfish. I can understand you buying something frivolous after paying off both your debts.”

One sticking point in the comments was whether or not she bought the Scratchie using the joint or personal acount.

One group member suspected that, “You bought the ticket using money from the joint account because you would have told us if it had come from your personal account.”

Another person mentioned that it doesn’t matter where the money came from because “morally and legally” it’s a shared asset.

But someone else argued that “the legality of it depends highly on (her) location and whether they have a prenup. One spouse’s property is not automatically half the other’s everywhere in the world.”

And then a different person made another valid point: “If you are filing taxes jointly, won’t he be just as obligated to pay taxes on this money? Hope you are putting some aside for the tax man. If not, I know I’d be pissed if I was your husband.”

One person said, “I feel like it highly depends on the amount. If it’s a small amount then I don’t see why you wouldn’t be able to keep the money for yourself and spend it how you like. If you’re going to use the money to do something for yourself, by yourself, then it’s for you. Husband isn’t entitled to his own ‘play’ money necessarily.”

And then this user wrote, “I knew a guy who was always talking trash about the lottery and people who play it but was quick to ask if a winner was treating the group to drinks. If OP’s husband is like this, I understand not wanting to share.”

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